What Eleven Ducks Said

On the core attributes of true friendship

Being Present

When we think about presence, plain availability simply comes to mind. We’re often deluded by the idea that being in a person’s face — either through daily chats, during merry moments, or proximity-based fondness — adequately establishes our ground as friends.

Being Patient

Growing Together

We are often too romanticized by the idea of independently moving and winning, that we forget our roles in the lives of those around us. Roles that occasionally dethrone the business of facing one’s front and calls for our involvement — as a sister, brother, mother, father, daughter, son, friend, and more — in the life of another.

He who begins to be your friend because it pays will also cease because it pays. _Seneca

The word “friend” singlehandedly perpetuates a feeling of solidarity, a feeling of belonging in the life of another. It’s why a tradesman melts a little when we call them by that title. It’s a knowing that has seen to the commodification of the word and its resultant devaluation.

Friendship is unnecessary. Like art, like the universe itself, it has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.” _C.S. Lewis



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